Today we're bringing you a topic that may generate some doubts. Perhaps doubt isn't the right word, but rather a debate of ideas and experiences that mums and dads on this side may have already had.
A good few months ago, we heard about the postpartum situation, in which, naturally, the baby is the centre of attention and there is great concern about how the little one will grow and develop. It's a new world and each event will always be something to learn from.
There is a great deal of concern here about all the aspects that arise when the baby is in the parents' arms. We know that there is preparation for every aspect that we can possibly prepare for, but we know that there are contexts that we will only know the best way to deal with when they are in front of us.
From the moment we have our little one, priorities change, there is a transformation in the lives of mums and dads. It's perfectly natural to pay constant attention to how to act, whether the baby is all right, if in half an hour the little one wants to sleep we have to prepare the place in advance to keep him comfortable, or realise if he's hungry.
However, one aspect we want to emphasise is the sense of attention that is given. The baby, being the parents' priority, can leave a big gap in the attention given to other things. We can talk about the mother, her condition, how she's feeling, whether she needs any help, among other things.
The situation we heard about a few months ago refers exactly to this idea. Not in a sense of selfishness, but because of the idea that after giving birth, the only element that will need care is the baby. The postpartum period is a crucial process of being careful and attentive to any kind of behaviour, not only concerning the baby but also the mother.
In this way, we're talking about small help with any task or situation that may be necessary, asking the question ‘how are you?’, giving the mum reassurance and comfort in asking for help. These kinds of actions are extremely important in a delicate physical and psychological context. The mother undergoes a major transformation of her body during the 9 months, but the post-partum period is equally transformative in terms of managing everything that is going on - managing emotions, the new reality, allowing yourself to be vulnerable (sometimes we know that they don't, because they think they shouldn't be) and getting the help needed.
By this we mean that the baby will be taken care of and will always be the new element that all eyes are on, which is perfectly normal. However, the mother also needs care and support in this post-partum process.
We often hear the following phrases: “How's the baby?” or 'How did he spend the night? Few times do we hear the following questions: ‘How did you spend the night?’, ‘Do you need any help?’ or ‘How are you feeling?’.
Pregnancy and, in this case, the whole post-partum period is particularly challenging for the mum, who is permanently available for whatever the baby needs, but she has to have her moments, even if they start at just five minutes and start getting longer, so that it becomes a routine and she feels good.
We think this is a delicate subject and that we need to understand both sides of this phase. There's no doubt that mums will want the best for their little ones from the moment they are in their arms. However, the mother's idea of care is very important, as she also needs to be well so that she can be with her baby and transmit good feelings and both be happy and healthy.
It's necessary to talk about this, because often the mother doesn't want to convey the need for help, because she has to be 100 % there for the baby. However, a large part of that percentage comes from the mother's state of health. A woman has the ability to generate life, to go through nine months of pregnancy and to allow her children to grow up in the best and healthiest way possible. To this end, it is essential that she is well looked after and supported during this very important time for her and her baby.
In today's post, the idea we want to convey is that the question 'How did baby spend the night?‘ or ’Do you need help?" are both extremely important. The 100 % well-being of the baby comes largely from the mood and well-being of the mother. Mums need to be looked after and we guarantee that they will be happy. Without a doubt, our little ones will feel well and happy and mums will always be available to support their growth and development.
It's an important topic and we want to return to it, to remind people that asking for help is normal and important.
What about you? Mums out there, we'd like to know if any of you are going through this phase. Any tips you'd like to share with us? We want to know your experience. We want to know your opinion.
