When we are parents, we often say that our children are part of us, that our feelings for them are impossible to quantify and cannot be explained. But what can we say about sharing love with our children?
What answer can we give to this question? It can be quick and obvious. It can be difficult to explain. We may think it's a question we shouldn't even answer, because it's clear that the love felt for each child is the same and completely immune to any doubt.
However, we think it's an interesting topic to debate and try to understand each person's perspective. We share our idea: for us, the love we feel for a son or daughter will always be special and the greatest of all, which makes us think it's impossible not to share it in the same way with each of our children.
So we can call it unconditional love for our baby, child and children. This love that we share with them begins when we know that we are going to be mums and dads, when the mum goes through the nine months of her baby's growth, all the care taken to ensure that the little one is born well and healthy, the moment when he is in our arms, the sleepless nights and constant worry, the moment when he says his first words or the moment when he takes his first steps. Well, we could go on much longer talking about the moments, aspects and feelings that we emphasise when we are parents.
These characteristics emerge, or rather become undeniably obvious, because of the love we feel for them. This feeling makes us certain that if they are well, we parents will be well too. The same can be applied to love, in the sense that the love parents share for their children is equal and enormous.
When we have our first baby, it's a unique experience because, from that moment on, our love is connected to a little human being and there is constant concern for their well-being. Now, when you have more than one child, the scenario becomes different. It's certainly another moment we'll never forget and each birth will always be like the first one.
As a result, the parents' love for their children is shared and can manifest itself in various ways, whether through constant concern for the children's well-being and development or through the values the parents want to transmit. We can't forget the moments of affection, the endless pride, the mum's endless conversations with the baby, or even the jokes and games with dad. These actions are ways of sharing this constant love, regardless of the various transformations that the parents' relationship with the child undergoes throughout its growth and development.
One thing is certain: there will always be love. A simple example we can give is dinner time. The end of the day, when everyone is chatting about the day, sharing their experiences, the difficulties they've had at school, the new things they've learnt and interacting with each other. It's moments like these that are necessary and important in the relationship between parents and children - it's a way of sharing love.
We can give yet another example. Sharing love also involves these small details. Moments of conversation, sharing some knowledge that parents want to share with their children, getting to know new places and cultures and, essentially, being able to be as equally present as possible in their lives. Above all, we want to give them the best tools and always be a synonym for security throughout our children's lives.
Having children is also associated with great responsibilities, trying to manage this love and making them feel supported and listened to by their parents. Each child has their own personality, different ways of reacting and needs different care and attention. Parents also want to transmit this love to their children, as it is important for them to establish, share and be able to create this bond with their brothers and sisters, or with the people who are present in their lives.
Another aspect that we can't ignore is that mums and dads can have different personalities and perspectives. In this way, we can understand that this also causes the child's way of thinking and personality to be shaped and built through these differences. It's natural and it's part of it. Passing on what we think is best for our children is also sharing the love we feel for each of them. Regardless of their personality, mums and dads will love in the same way.
This is what creating a family is all about - sharing the love that parents feel for their children and that children feel for their parents.
For this conversation, we wanted to bring Andreia Vasconcelos, author of the blog Tomás My Special Baby and the book Maternidade, Amor e Trissomia. Andreia is the mother of four children, two girls and two boys. During our Wedoble Talks, Andreia talked to us about sharing love with her children. We thought it necessary to share this video because it's an important topic to address and here we have a great example and experience to share.
This conversation essentially centred on sharing the love you feel when you're raising your family, the various worries you have about the possible reactions your children might have to the arrival of a new baby and how you manage to balance giving attention and love to everyone equally. We recommend watching and listening.
We thank Andreia for her enlightening talk and for sharing her experience as a mum who shares love for every member of her family.
Here is the video of her sharing this interesting topic in more detail.
The video is available on Wedoble's Facebook page - https://fb.watch/lqpCG6nyxc/
What about you? How do you share love at home? We want to know your opinion.
